No doubt everyone has red flags, but what counts as a red flag is different for everyone. Red flags can be morals, actions, or more likely lack of actions. There are however, some red flags that I think are pretty universal (don't quote me on that). Below, I've outlined some of the biggest red flags for me personally. Comment if you agree or disagree.
Blocking my eyes to all the red flags...clearly, lol, if you've seen some of the people I've gone out with.
1) Ridicules Your Beliefs, Morals, Culture, or Religion
If they know your background and still continue to make fun of the things you stand by, this is most definitely a red flag. Being with someone means accepting their upbringing, what they stand for, and any beliefs they have. This doesn't mean you have to believe everything they do, but at least be respectful. If they cannot understand this concept, it is a huge red flag.
2) Is More Talk Than Actions
We are probably all familiar with the saying, "actions speak louder than words." If they keep telling you, "I'll be there next time," "I'll always be there for you when you are sick," "I'm going to get you this [whatever it may be]," they should act on what they say. I'm not saying they have to buy you a heck ton of stuff; just if they say something, they should follow through and not let the words vanish into thin air.
3) Is Rude to Their Parents
A huge red flag is when someone is mean or disrespectful to their parents. If their parents were abusive or not present, that's a different story. But if their family is there for them, they should have the decency to respect them. If they can't even respect their own parents, the chances they respect you, in the long run, are incredibly slim.
4) They Spend Excessive Time On Their Phone When You're Together
Showing you something on their phone is fine, as is answering some messages. That said, spending more than half of their time scrolling reels or TikToks when you are together is a serious issue, in my opinion. Like, no, surprisingly I did not drive all the way to hang out with you just to sit here on our phones.
5) It's Never Their Turn to Pay
In my opinion, sharing costs or alternating back and forth is the way to go. That way if you ever go your separate ways, no one feels like the other person owes them anything. The real issue comes when you are always the one paying. Fair is fair - and one person going in debt for the other is a huge red flag.
6) They Are Always Drinking
Once in a while and in moderation, everything is okay. The red flag stems from them wanting to go out every night and spend more time at the bar than with you. Hey, if you go together and have a good time, good on ya, but that is personal preference.
For this really short blog I wanted to focus on just 6 of the most prevelent red flags I have noticed, but again, this may vary from person to person. We have all been in relationships where we have turned a blind eye on red flags in hope that the person will get better. Truth be told, talking about it sometimes helps, but people are hard to change. Keep an eye out for your red flags in relationships and never be blind to them.
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