How You Know It's Time To Let Them Go

Before anyone comes at me for any of these points, keep in mind this is based on MY personal experience, and everyone has different things that are "signs" that it's time to let go. You are more than welcome to use my thinking as a guideline, but never base your final decision on someone else's thought process. These are points I use mainly for relationships but also for friendships.

1. They become more talk than action.

In my opinion, as soon as someone begins telling you they are going to change and you don't see progress within a couple of weeks, they clearly are not as dedicated as they once said. You are never in the wrong for telling someone how you feel and what you need from them, just as you should expect them to do the same. The issue occurs when they don't act on the changes they say they are going to take. Did they promise to take you out somewhere and then bail? Did they say they would make more effort to invite you places or hang out and didn't? It's probably time to say goodbye.

2. You start dreading spending time with them.

If you are truly meant to be in someone's life, spending time with them should be exciting. You should want to see them all the time and spend time together, even if that's just sitting together in silence. The second I start to dread plans and want to bail to stay home alone, I know something is wrong, and it's time to move on.

3. You are always the one planning hangouts and texting/calling first.

Effort needs to be a two-way street. If you call me one day, I'll call you the next day. You send some good morning texts, I'll send the others. Effort goes both ways. The same thing goes for suggesting to hang out. If I become the only one who ever plans things or asks to hang out, I know either they don't care anymore, or I care too much. You should never feel like you are the only one that wants to see them. It should be crystal clear that they want to hang out with you. I never want to be questioning whether they enjoy my company.

4. They make you feel less than.

If your friend or partner starts insulting you, making you feel dumb or out of place, it is a pretty good indication that you need to find someone better to spend your time with. This is easier said than done, especially if they gaslight you into thinking you are so dumb; they are the best you can get. Please remember your worth and stay around people that know how to show you that you are worthy.

5. Your relationship with them is hurting your other relationships.

Sometimes in new relationships, you ruin other friendships or even family relationships by spending all your time together or disregarding what others tell you. If it gets to the point that you stop spending time with people that care about you or you hurt them unconsciously, it may be time to take a step back from said person.

All of these points are easier said than done. I'm also guilty of letting things slide that I shouldn't, and all I can do from here on is learn from my mistakes to build stronger relationships in the future!